MHRM

So, watching youtube videos back in January, I stumbled upon Feminism and The Disposable Male by GirlWritesWhat. Which led me to Look out! It's a Nice Guy! Destroy Him!!11! . So I started watching all the GirlWritesWhat videos. And then started watching ManWomanMyth, and watched the whole documentary. Then I watched everything Typhon Blue had posted. And now we come to today (yes, it took awhile.)

So I have a message, one for men, one for women, and one for society.

Men:

I'm sorry, and thank you.

I'm sorry for the way we've treated you. The way we've ignored you. The way we trample all over your rights in the name of equality. The way we decided that equality was supposed to mean equal outcomes, not equal opportunities. The way we push you into sacrificing for us, even when it's not needed. The way we take advantage of your good natures, and give you small thanks those few times we gave you any. The way we usually don't give you any thanks, and instead complain about the things you do for us.

Thank you. Thank you for your patience. Thank you for your strength. Thank you for your kindness. Thank you for your sacrifices. Thank you for every time you've helped us, protected us, provided for us, sheltered us, and comforted us. Thank you for every time you've given us what we need, instead of what we want, despite our protests.

Women:

WAKE THE FUCK UP! Can't you see everything men do for you? Can't you understand that they have always had the short end of the stick? GET OVER YOURSELF! Try sacrificing your life for their dreams sometimes. Try sacrificing what you want for what they want sometimes. Try just letting them go, letting them have a piece of their lives to call their own! Treat them as though they were another woman!

Quit trying to change the game to suit your abilities. If you can't lift a man, you shouldn't take a job that might require you to lift a man! If you can't run a mile, you shouldn't take a job that might require you to run a mile. If you can't handle pressure, don't take a high-stakes job. If you don't want to take the blame, then don't take the credit either.

STOP THE FALSE ACCUSATIONS! Seriously, I don't care how mad you are at him, calling him a rapist is just not good. It's like if he accused you of murder, and managed to convince the entire country of it. Every time a woman makes a false accusation, it makes it harder for those who have a real problem.

YOUR CHILDREN NEED THEIR FATHER. Stop cutting him out of their lives just because he didn't want to deal with your shit anymore. Stop randomly deciding to have a kid without letting the father know you want to do so. Children thrive in an environment where they know that both parents wanted them, and know that both parents are involved in their life. THAT is what is needed. Guess what? It's on you, the mother, to make sure they get that sort of environment!

Quit blaming others for your actions. Quit using what you did to them as evidence against them. Stop this madness!

Society:

Equal opportunity is not equal outcomes. Give everyone an equal opportunity. Forget about the equal outcomes. They aren't going to happen. Stop destroying the economy in the interests of having a "balanced" workforce. Jobs should be free to hire the best person, whether that's a man or a woman, no matter what race.

I don't know how to fix the taxes situation, but we really need to get back to the sort of society where two people can live off of one paycheck. Seriously! And what is this shit where any sort of discipline is viewed as abuse? What is this shit where enjoying the company of a child is considered abuse? There is nothing wrong with giving a hug. There is nothing wrong with sitting a child on your lap for a story. I don't fucking care what gender you are! It's only wrong if the man is getting a boner, or the woman is getting short of breath. Aren't there ways to monitor if a person actually finds a situation sexually appealing?

It might not be the man's fault if he's an absent father. How hard is it to look up in the court cases and see if he's not around because the mother decided he wasn't allowed to be? Why the fuck do you use that as "proof" that he's not a responsible father? Why not ask him "Why couldn't you take time to visit your children?" and actually believe him if he says "Because she wouldn't let me. She got a restraining order put on me." This is bullshit!
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Okay, I think I feel better now.